Depression sucks. It sucks and it sucks the joy, fun, and sense of hope out of our once vibrant lives. It feels like a heavy, dark gray, ugly cloud that smothers the promise out of our future.
Ain’t nobody got time for that and still, we must make time for it.
Sometimes, just taking the time to say, “hello depression, my not so dear old friend” while embracing it for the unpleasant moment in time that it is, can create space for it to make its way out of our lives that much more quickly.
Depression lies; it promises that life will never every be worth living again but remember, depression is a bold-faced liar. It never lasts and it only has the power to sabotage our lives when we give it that power. We have the ultimate power to decide how much we allow depression to dictate our thoughts and actions.
Sure, you may sleep all day and push people away, or temporarily give up on your responsibilities, but aren’t these acts of self-care? At some point, you get fed up with feeling that depressed feeling and that’s when it’s time to stop allowing it to dictate how you think about your actions.
The things we do when we are depressed are desperate acts of self-compassion because it is so hard to watch ourselves suffer and so, we deal with it the best way that we can. Binge watching TV, ignoring the phone, and calling in sick might just be what is needed at times like these.
Remember that depression is just a temporary feeling and if we can acknowledge its presence for what it is and sit with the feeling in the moment, it never fulfills the threat of engulfing our lives to an unmanageable degree.
Eventually, the gray cloud blows away to reveal a glimmer of hope.
This is where self-care and self-compassion become of the utmost importance.
What small seemingly insignificant thing still makes life worth living? Perhaps it’s a warm cup of coffee. Perhaps it’s a game on your phone. Perhaps it’s your beloved pet. These are small opportunities for self-care and self-compassion.
What can you do when you feel like you can’t do anything? You can feel. Perhaps, you can cry. Perhaps acknowledging yourself as still being worthy as you sit with the unpleasant feeling is the ultimate act of self-compassion.
Still, perhaps you can muster up the energy to drink a warm cup of tea, go for a walk, sit in the sun, or do something kind for someone else to remind you that you still have a purpose in this life.
Small acts of care and compassion have a knack for gaining energetic momentum and that is just what is needed to wave goodbye to the deceitful gray cloud that is depression. Start small and have faith that this too shall pass.